Every heartbreak leaves an internal wound on our bodies and many of us don’t take the proper time to heal because we either jump into another relationship hoping to be rescued from the pain or we just numb our pain until someone new comes along. There is exponential danger in doing that because a heart that is numb can never be healed and nobody but ourselves can rescue us from our pain. Even God can’t rescue us from our pain if we choose to stay in it. When you don’t take the proper time to walk away from the hurt and allow God to take you on a path of healing before you jump into another relationship, there are only two things that will happen.
The first thing that will happen is that you will get heartbroken again, which will open up a new wound. The second thing that will happen is that you will infect your new relationship with your open wound. I believe open-wounded relationships are a factor in the 50% divorce rate because many people say “I Do” before they ever say “I’m healed.” When two wounded people walk into a relationship, the risk of infection is nearly unavoidable because when two open wounds come into contact they will exchange diseases and infect each other. You will infect each other with hurt. You will infect each other with trust issues. You will infect each other with insecurities. On the other hand, if you are healed and you enter a relationship with a wounded person, then you will become wounded even though you were once healed.
Come into a relationship with your scars, not your wounds. Your scars are proof that you’ve made it to the other side of the battle…your open wounds are proof that you’re still in the battle and now we’re fighting love at war.
The Bible says that God is close to the broken-hearted, but how would you know that God is close to you if you are still focused on the relationship that has walked away? If we choose to stay wounded, then we choose to stay far from God. I challenge you today to surrender to God with all of your wounds and begin healing the pain of yesterday.
Pray this simple prayer “Heavenly Father, I come to you with my hands up, wounds open, and hearts exposed, asking that you grant me Psalm 147:3. Heal my broken heart and bind up every wound. In the name of Jesus, I surrender everything to you. Amen.”