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Focus on Your Feelings When Dating

When you like someone, it is common to ignore your own feelings just because of the way that you feel about them. It is so important to tap into your own emotions when dating because when you ignore how someone else’s actions and behaviors make you feel…you will miss red flags. Try my exercise below to ensure that you don’t overlook yourself just because you like someone else.

Before you start dating, make a list of feelings that you want to experience in a relationship. Then, as you meet people, revisit the list each week or each month to evaluate if this is a person you should continue dating. If they are causing you to feel numerous emotions that aren’t on your list, then the relationship is not benefitting you.

You’re not going to write “anxious” on their list. So why would you continue to date someone who makes you feel anxious when they don’t give you clarity on where the relationship is going?

You’re not going to write “unworthy” on your list. So why would you continue to date someone who makes you feel that way.

As women, sometimes we will find ourselves dating someone who makes us feel emotions that we don’t like, just because we want the relationship to work out with this specific person. Detach yourself from the person and focus on the feeling. Once again I repeat…detach yourself from the person and focus on the feeling.

It’s time to make your own list! Below are some example words you can use to add to yours!

– Happy
– Excited
– Joyful
– Grateful
– Confident
– Assured
– Prioritized
– Cared For
– Admired
– Romanced

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